Weekly Chatter: Not a Failure

I have opened and closed my lap top at least three times to write this week’s post. It’s probably why it’s three days late, too.

Welcome to Weekly Chatter! A brain dump of all the things that don’t necessarily fit in a regular old blog post.


My closest friends know how much I love a good podcast. I can’t get enough of the three from Elizabeth Laime right now (Totally Laime, Totally Married and Totally Mommy). Last Friday, after Elizabeth and Andy (her husband and co-host) wrapped their show with guest Andree Vermulen, I tweeted the following:

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This guest was off the rails with the information she was putting out there about animal proteins and cancer. First, she lives a vegan lifestyle and I totally respect that decision but I was so bothered by her statements that animal proteins cause cancer. If it were only that simple. Did you see the “official findings from Johns Hopkins” making the internet rounds last week that sugar causes cancer? Again, if it were only that simple.

The reason for the tweet is because Elizabeth’s reactions were “Hmmm…interesting” and Andy was especially quiet. If I could be a fly on the wall in that room after their guest left! Elizabeth is a vegetarian and animal advocate so I imagine she agrees to some parts of what Vermulen talked about. But, her mother also died from cancer so I can’t help but wonder if these ideas were a little too close to home.


Speaking of friends. In case you missed it, I kicked off the first in a series of guest posts about the complexities of female friendships. I wrote late into the morning hours, editing and re-editing, and I still don’t feel like I said exactly what I wanted to say on the subject. Girlfriend friendships weigh heavy on my heart because I’ve been trying to help my own daughter navigate the rocky terrain and I haven’t even been able to figure out my own.

June 1st was my Project Tank Top deadline. I’m not exactly where I had hoped to be by my self-imposed deadline but I am thrilled with my progress. My friend Anna wrote last week, “Failure does not make me any less awesome” and I totally agree even though I’m really not declaring the project a failure. I’m simply readjusting my goal and reflecting on what I have accomplished in the last several months.

So last Friday while at the gym, I asked my trainer to snap a photo of me while I was in a side plank. With the exception of lunges, the side plank  has been my biggest struggle since I started working out with a trainer. I have a shoulder and neck thing that made getting up into that side plank almost impossible. I won’t lie…it still hurts like a mother but I can do it.


Not the prettiest picture – bad hair, double chin, a sweaty mess but I’m in a side plank, y’all. This keeps me going, I know that I eventually will get to my idea of tank top ready…maybe in time for sweater weather! 🙂

Shout outs! Last week I asked for a couple of parenting book suggestions. Thanks to Denise for coming through! Ordered them and I will let you know how they are.

Three things I’m into this week:

1. Kim Gordon of Sonic Youth. She appeared in that Kathleen Hanna documentary I told you about last week and performed with Nirvana during this weekend’s Rock and Roll Hall of Fame Induction Ceremony.

2. The California room. I need this in my backyard complete with flat screen TV, fireplace and cozy couches.

3. Birkenstocks. OMG, I know! I rocked those babies throughout high school and they are making a huge comeback right now – along with every other item of clothing I wore in the early 1990’s. But I’m in love with these.


Thanks for hanging. Download the Totally Married podcast and click on one of those related links below.


  1. You are such an inspiration! And I love seeing you rocking side plank.

    One day, I’ll get there. One day.

  2. I think I somehow missed that episode of Totally Married. I need to go back and find it.

  3. GURRRRRL – sideplank is a bitch… I’ve done yoga for YEARS and still can’t handle it. 🙂 You rock my socks AND look fabulous.

    I haven’t listened to the latest Laime-cast, but I almost don’t want to know what this person says. That kind of stuff makes me twitchy because yeah, there’s only one thing that causes cancer *eyeroll*.

    Loving the Weekly Chatter!

    • wendy nielsen says:

      Thanks friend! I’ll show you how to get into that side plank NEXT MONTH!!!!! Can’t wait!!

  4. Oh and I totally LOVED Birks… I might have to reinvest. 🙂

  5. Your sideplank looks awesome Wendy! You go girl! xo

  6. I like this weekly chatter! There’s so much that doesn’t fit into a single post. Interesting to read that you are into podcasts. I recently started a podcast with another friend who writes. It’s been fun. I’ll go now and give Totally Lame a listen, maybe pick up some tips.

    Keep up the awesome planking! 🙂

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