Too Fat for Stitch Fix?

Last week I received my 18th Stitch Fix box. At this rate, some might consider me an optimist and others might call me a glutton for punishment.

Let me back it up here. Stitch Fix is a monthly subscription service where a box of brand new clothes arrives on your doorstep. Inside is filled with pants, shorts or dresses, blouses and knit tops, sweaters or outerwear, and accessories. Their stylists put together your monthly Fix based on a profile created when you sign up. The cost of the service is $20. You keep and pay for any items you like and mail back the other pieces you don’t like. If you hate everything and send it all back, it costs you $20. If you keep anything, the $20 is applied to the purchase.


The Stitch Fix model is fun, effortless shopping for busy women. So many of my friends love the service and rave about the convenience. There is also a lot of complaining on the internet about Stitch Fix, mostly that the price point is too high for brands that can be found at stores like Nordstrom Rack.

My thoughts? I really love when that box arrives. I am always hopeful for what’s inside. Will there be a pair of shorts that don’t make my legs look like tree stumps? How about the perfect pair of distressed denim jeans to replace my beloved ones from the Gap? Or a blouse that will finally make me look put together for mornings at school drop off but that I can also wear to record videos for Long Story Short.

I absolutely love the convenience because I really hate shopping for myself these days. I’d much rather be disappointed in my own home rather than do the walk of shame from the dressing room and field questions like “How’d those work out for you?”

I do agree that the price point on some items can be high. I’m willing to pay a premium for quality clothing, especially denim, but this gal who typically shops at Old Navy and Target chokes on a $70 knit top and $40 necklace. Not to mention, I have purchased items in that price point from Stitch Fix and have found the quality to be on par with the fast fashion from my favorite retail stores.


What does any of this have to do with being too fat for Stitch Fix? Well, over the last 18 months my biggest complaint with the service is that the clothes do not fit. Now, of course a lot of that burden falls on me. If I lost the ten (or 20) pounds I’ve been saying I’m going to lose for the last 7 years, I might actually fit into the pieces they send me. But that aside, I’m really disappointed at the lack of variety they have for women my size.

Real talk here: I am a true size 12 and I typically wear a size large. With some brands, I wear an XL to accommodate my larger chest and long arms. I’m also tall, so I like pants that are long. I’ve fiddled with my Stitch Fix style profile several times and have given tons of feedback to my stylist about selecting brands that aren’t cut so slim or sending pieces that fit my dimensions. And each month, I receive a pair of pants that are too tight and too short and shirts that are too boxy and drapey.

I finally realized I might be too fat for Stitch Fix when I started keeping the accessories from each Fix and sending all the clothes back.


I’ve been dealing with immense feelings of self-hate for many months now. A lot of it has to do with how I feel, how I look physically, and since turning 40, how I am aging. I’ve been trying hard to navigate these rough waters. Part of the internal dialogue is conceding to this is who I am now and the other is screaming NO! YOU ARE NOT THIS PERSON! I certainly try to make changes and then find myself slipping into old habits because I am overcommitted to everything else in life except myself.

This all of course is not any fault of Stitch Fix. Yet, I find myself annoyed at this service that can’t accommodate styling the average size of an American woman.

With that said, I’m going to wrap up today’s blog. I would love if you left me a comment about anything I’ve written here. Are you using Stitch Fix? Tell me about your experience so far and what kind of tips you might have. Where do you shop for clothes (I have another blog post brewing about that dilemma as well)? Also, if you have dealt with similar feelings of self-loathing, I would love your advice on how to break free from it.


  1. Oh I hear you about Stitch Fix. I have an unhealthy relationship with them too. I want them to send me the perfect box, but I want them to be aware of how my weight is like a yo-yo. I am on the smaller size, some days a size 4 but most days a size 8. So I’ve found that this subscription can make me insanely happy, or borderline manic. I paused my subscription for 3 months. I went back into my Pinterest boards and update them with what I really like to wear, not what I think it pretty. I was also very frank with the stylist. I think I have better expectations now and was pleased with my box this month.

    However, I only kept one shirt. And? It was a shirt that they had already sent me, just a size bigger! LOL

  2. Girl, I am a size six and I’m too fat for Stitch Fix. I got five boxes and kept NOTHING because it was always too small, too short, too tight. And I’m 36 and I feel like I’m freakin’ falling apart, so you’re not alone on that front either, but I can tell you this – when it comes to Stitch Fix? It’s not us, it’s them.

  3. At the risk of sounding super-creepy, I have to tell you that I watch your Long Story Short videos and always think to myself how adorable you are–your glowy skin, cute hair, infectious laughter. Please don’t let this goofy, over-priced subscription box lessen your self worth. I’ve never understood how a remote, “virtual” stylist could properly pick out clothes for a body that they’ve never seen in person…in motion. On another, less creepy-note, I’ve had good luck using the personal stylists at Nordstrom. I’ve gone in with a miniscule budget, apologizing in advance for not having tons of money to spend and they always keep my budget in check and send me out with pieces that I never would’ve chosen for myself (but that I love) and with a renewed sense of confidence. I think you’re great and Stitch Fix can stick it. 🙂

  4. Oh, my friend… I’m right there with you.
    And what compounded the problem is that each month, I would try everything on, feel frumpy, and immediately flash to all of those FB and IG photos in my feed of my friends looking all cute, skinny and happy.
    I cancelled my subscription after three months of disappointment.
    I struggle enough… I don’t need a box of sadness delivered to me monthly.
    Having said that, wanna go to the mall with me and tell me everything looks awesome!?

  5. I could never subscribe to this. I have such a hard time fitting into clothes at the store, that there is no way I could order something online. Ever. I’m in between petite and regular length, so most bottoms are too short or too long. Most tops they sell today are too long for my arms and height (or lack there of). Plus I can’t stand the super clingy fabric that outlines every single imperfection. Who cares how “comfortable” that fabric is because accentuating every flaw creates a whole new level of “uncomfortable”. I rarely keep anything I buy at the store, where I tried it on, so why would I pay $20 to try on clothes that don’t fit. Besides, I have to LOVE something almost as much as my children to pay full price.

  6. i refuse to pay that kind of money when I can go to Target and feel fat for free. I also have a hard to dress body right now and you just affirm that I do just fine on my own shopping.
    PS Forever 21 and Charming Charlie are best for accessories.

  7. I can so relate to this. I hung onto my Stitch Fix subscription many months beyond my dissatisfaction set in. I tried giving additional/detailed feedback but, in the end, I felt like they struggled to style the average body of a 40-something mom without making me into a frumpy spinster. Like you, I was sending back way more than I was keeping – and so, I finally broke up with them. I’m glad it works well for others but there wasn’t enough variety and decently fitting pieces for me.

  8. I know how you feel – have similar thoughts about my own body that just isn’t what it used to be, and I’m constantly working on losing a few pounds. I haven’t tried Stitch Fix, but if you haven’t heard of it, you may want to check out Le Tote. I’ve been doing it for a little over a year, and I love it. I’m around the same size you described, and frequently have trouble finding things that fit me all over right, but I’ve had pretty good luck with Le Tote. And for me it’s nice that it’s basically like Netflix for clothes, so even though I pay every month, I go through several outfits and don’t have to pay to keep them – I just shove them back in a bag (no laundry or dry cleaning!) and wait for my next box. It feels like less pressure to commit to buying something than Stitch Fix. And if I wear something I really, really love, then I’ll consider paying the somewhat high prices that sound pretty close to Stitch Fix prices. It’s also nice if you’re (in theory) trying to lose weight because you can change sizes as you lose. I find my Le Tote boxes generally make me feel better about my body and help me try styles I wouldn’t if I were picking on my own!

  9. I have really struggled, too, with StitchFix. I keep updating my profile, giving detailed notes, etc., but the stylist clearly isn’t reading them.

    I’ve decided they only send boxy, drapey shirts… which with my frame and chest, is the worst look ever.

    It’s not you.

  10. stopped using stitchfix because of that very reason. they are definitely a small/medium service – over that – it is what it is. i would love to see them expand on their sizing (and lower the prices in some occasion).

  11. “Part of the internal dialogue is conceding to this is who I am now and the other is screaming NO! YOU ARE NOT THIS PERSON!” YES! So me the last five years at least. I just signed up for my first Fix, and am waiting for it’s arrival later this month. I need to be more specific in my profile and on my Pinterest Pins, my friend tells me. But generally, I do not have the greatest luck when it comes to online shopping. Plus, I do love when I can get a great piece that I wear all the time at an amazing price because of sales and coupons. But, I will give it a try, just to say I did.

  12. I hear you – I quit after my first box. The clothes were cute, just not on me. I’m a 14 these days, and the sizing is supposed to go up to 14, but everything is too small. Also, I have ginormous breasts, and I told them specifically not to send any shirts that button up the front. They sent two, plus a pair of super-skinny jeans to highlight my muffin top, a knit top that was OK that I kept but have not worn as much as I thought I would, and a very clingy sheath dress, even though I told them my midsection is a disaster zone, so I looked like a sausage. I would love to have someone pick out clothes for me, but Stitch Fix doesn’t work.

  13. I can totally relate to this. And I think you bring up a great point — Not that you’re too fat for Stitch Fix. But that these services (and so many clothing makers) don’t design clothes for us women who are not skinny and below a size 10. Plus I just have an issue with this service and paying $20 to essentially be disappointed each month.

    • wendy nielsen says:

      Yes! Here, take my $20 and thanks for making me feel shit. I have one last box coming and I’m anxiously awaiting to see how terrible it will be. Keep you posted.

  14. Cindy Kueck says:

    I think you are talking about two seperate things here. One is body image issues and one Stitch Fix. If the service is not working for you, by all means you should stop using it! I personally really enjoy it even if I only keep one or two things. I hate shopping, and my access to stores is pretty limited – there are no Charming Charlies, Nordstroms, or anything like that around even if I enjoyed or had time to actually go to them. Regarding the body image issues, I think you need to take a deep breathe and let it out. I am 45, so I totally get the slowing metabolism, getting older thing. It is harder to stay in shape or lose weight. But I have come to peace with it – I am healthy, I try to eat well, run, and exercise several times a week, even though it is a major juggle. But I will never be a size 6 or wear a bikini and will always have a soft tummy. And that is ok. I can still be cute and confident. Plus I get to enjoy brownies if I want, and I would much rather do that 🙂

    • wendy nielsen says:

      I think you’re absolutely correct that these are two separate issues. However, my experience with Stitch Fix was negatively feeding into my body image issues and making me feel plain awful. I’m thrilled to see others have such a great experience. I have since canceled the service and someday hope to have the confidence you have. Thanks for commenting! 🙂

  15. I absolutely love Stitch Fix and while I don’t always get more than 1 items per month that I love, I feel it’s worth it. I will say that there is a trick to getting what you want and what fits. I update my pinterest board monthly and I’m very specific about what I’m looking for. If there is a brand that I recieve in the box that is ill fitting every time, I ask them not to send that brand anymore. I’m finding that certain brands fit well most months and I request those more. I do have friends who have been extremely dissapointed, but mostly because they didn’t tie their Fix to their pinterest board, and they aren’t specific about what they want. I agree there are many times that tops don’t fit (I have a large chest and extremely wide back). I fluctuate between a size 8 – 12 depending on the month and I usually update my profile when I’m on one side of the size to another. I think it’s just a matter of being really specific about what you want and what you don’t want and keeping your profile updated. Hopefully this helps anyone who has had a bad experience. I’m sure this service isn’t for everyone, but I personally love it because I’m too busy with work and my 2 boys to shop for myself and this makes it so much easier. 🙂

  16. I solved the problem by contacting Stitch Fix and having them mail me the whole selection out in larger sizes. If I keep the whole package it comes to $45/item. Not too expensive and they get me out of my shopping rut.

  17. Michelle says:

    I feel you. I’m giving stitch fix a try but if it does not work I will stop. But there is another box called Dia and Co. It caters to sizes 10-32. I have really loved their service as I have lost weight. It works the same way as stitch fix . Good luck!

  18. I came upon your post while trying to research “a stitch fix for plus-size” because I’ve been so happy with SF and have been hoping to find a service that would work equally well for my sister, who is a larger size and different body type. We live in a remote area and there is no clothes shopping options here are extremely limited, so I tried stitch fix because I don’t want to travel to shop and just keep my work wardrobe decent. Anyway, I’m positive the reason the service works so well for me is related to the fact that really, most clothing from any store fits me pretty well too. I’m not particularly in shape at this point in my life, and have arrived at a size 10 (was 6/8 prior, and am 38 yrs old). So, I’m a bit overweight and un-toned, but am very lucky that my body TYPE tends to be sort of average and proportional – waist-hip ratio stays the same as I gain weight, breasts are not very big, shoulders are average, and I’m 5’7 3/4.
    The reason I’m pointing all this out is because I think Stitch Fix should actually just market themselves a little differently and narrowly – “Hey, if clothes generally fit you but you are not good at putting outfits TOGETHER, stitch fix is for you” would be more accurate. Because they are not designing the clothing at all, and even if they look at your facebook or other photos of you, it is not as good as a real-life stylist getting a peek at your dimensions. I have thought about this so much, in relation to trying to find a service that would work as well for my sister as Stitch fix works for me, and the reality I come back to is.. clothing is mass-produced, so is designed for an average body type – but the “average” can be average and still not suit MOST women very well at all! In truth, there is no AVERAGE WOMAN. Averages are for math calculations, not describing human woman physiques! So if you have the opportunity to meet a reasonable personal stylist who could just work with you even on a short term basis, I think we all benefit from a professional’s suggestions about breaking some of our wardrobe habits and misfires, and opening us up to things that might be more flattering by we don;t naturally gravitate to on our own. And even if it seems pricey, I think it would be so worth it to get you into some outfits that help you feel good about yourself, wherever you are right now. You are worth it. And I thank you for your honest post.

  19. Have you tried Dia&Co? It’s kind of like StitchFix but for plus sizes. They also do a great job putting together outfits. I promise you will never think to yourself, “Welp… I’m too fat for this service,” because they really make you feel so amazing and worthy.

  20. Linda Lu says:

    I know this is an old post, but I had to jump in. I think one of the most basic (and fixable) problems with Stitch Fix is that (last time I looked) the vast majority of their stylists are 20 and 30-somethings. These girls have no clue what it’s like to have a 40 or 50+ body, what looks good on us, or how to hide the issues us older girls have. They see us as their moms or grandmas and dress is ‘appropriately’ for what their concept of a mom or grandma would wear, with no experience at all in being us. And most of the time, their choices are just horrific. I received a double-knit, fake demin ‘jean jacket’ that I am STILL traumatized over., as well as old-lady pieces from my stylist who looked to be about 25. This SHOULD be no-brainer stuff, but yet, it isn’t to Stitch Fix, and I guess that says a lot about their business and who they would like to cater to. And apparently, it’s not me. Or US, based on the comments here. 🙂

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